Celebrate 2018: How To Maximize The New Year

The Road Ahead: What Will You Do Differently This Year To Celebrate and Succeed?

Changing the way things are done can bring opportunities for great celebratory success yet physical and emotional reactions to change can be scary and irrational, resulting in “failures”, a decrease in quality and a loss of production.

CHANGE CAN BE SCAREY

It’s tempting to give in to those anxieties by doing what’s always been done, however, priming the pump to have a better year always involves some form of adjustment to free up the time, money and energy to tackle new opportunities.

How do you decide what changes are the most important ones to make?

Ask yourself these questions:

  1. What personal and business tolerations interfered with personal and work progress? Tolerations are a good indication of issues in need of resolution.
  2. Were last year’s goals reached? Why or why not? How will those obstacles be addressed? Setting new goals without having evaluated the previous year’s goals can result in a cycle of substandard results.
  3. What fiscally responsible goal (making more money, collaborating, creating new products/services, improved marketing strategy, etc.) will also be fun? 
All work and no play make Jack a dull (and bored) boy, as the saying goes.

 

What do you need to change to celebrate a better year?

Choose passion over profit. Connect to your bigger purpose in life, work and business and the rewards will flow effortlessly. Passionate people attract success.

Higher learning. Technology changes fast. Staying on top of what’s working now is only half the battle. Discovering what’s up and coming and leveraging that knowledge is the key to an exceptional year.

Celebrate success. Acknowledging and rewarding success keeps everyone motivated. Mark those mini-milestones with celebration and recognition!

Add, don’t subtract. When repeat clients stop buying your products or services, something needs to change. Instead of cutting prices, add value instead–bundle existing services/products, add bonuses or create new offerings.

What are your blind spots?

Every driver has blind spots. That’s what rear-view mirrors are for. Blind spots in the work and business environment can be harder to identify. How does a person avert disaster in a work environment without the benefit of mirrors?

Ask around. Getting honest feedback from clients, customers and service providers can be as uncomfortable as it is invaluable. Do it anyway.

Seek professional help. Getting an objective outsiders opinion can help you see what is going well or not.

Coffee time. Chat up a colleague and encourage them to share their observations about what you are doing well and what needs improvement. Sometimes what needs to change is missed because it is so “obvious.”

Mantra Yourself: Creating a mindset of intention is key for setting the stage of routine and energetic flow. Here are some examples to get the juices flowing

Moving into the New Year doesn’t have to be a scary proposition. Having a clear sense of what’s ahead can circumvent failure and create a successful year.

Sad After The Holidays? You’re Not Alone…

How to Cope with the Post-Holiday Blues

A trail of brown needles leads out to the curb where the Christmas tree, once fragrant and green, lies wilted and dying. Unplugged are the brightly colored lights and, along with the treasured decorations, boxed up and stored away. Gone too, are family and friends. And where so recently nights were filled with gala social gatherings, the only thing left on many to-do lists is return gifts and mop up.

 

To top it off, in many parts of the country dreary, gray days lengthen into cold, dark nights.

 

No wonder so many people find themselves at a loss once the holiday season is over. The Post-Holiday Blues—feelings of sadness, of let-down, of depression—are not at all uncommon this time of year.

 

As the name implies, these blues are seasonal and are likely to disappear as the routine of daily life sets in again and things get back to normal. But the symptoms are real and can make a return to that ordinary rhythm hard to come by.

 

 

Symptoms of the Post-Holiday Blues can include feelings of fatigue or lethargy, an increased need for sleep, a lack of interest in activities and a sense of loss or sadness. To help get through this time, here are some things you can do:

 

  • Extend the time of giving by continuing to be generous. With so many new toys, children can clean out their toy boxes and closets and give to a charity or church those which they no longer use or want. Adults can do the same with clothes, household items or their own “toys.”

 

  • Recount the good times by writing thank you notes. Handwritten notes acknowledging the gift of time shared can be meaningful too – for the writer as well as the recipient.

 

  • Instead of putting this year’s holiday pictures away in a drawer along with all those other photos of years gone by, set aside the time to put them in a holiday scrapbook. Make it a family project.

 

  • When the weather permits, take walks outside. When the weather doesn’t cooperate, exercise inside. Put on some music and dance with yourself.

 

  • Every day schedule in a pleasant activity for yourself. Even if it’s only a hot bath or a half-hour with a favorite book.

 

  • Bring beauty into your home and your life. Taking down the holiday decorations can make a place feel dull and empty. Fill it up again with art, candles, flowers, bowls of fruit.

 

  • Plan a trip or a project. Working on something and making plans gives you something to look forward to.

 

  • Volunteer for activities through one of your favorite organizations.

 

  • Recognize that this time and these feelings too shall pass, as the night to day and winter to spring.

 

However, feelings beyond “the blues” or feelings that are more debilitating, or that extend much beyond the post-holidays, may signal depression. Seek help when you need it. Remember, you don’t have to do it alone.

 

WINTER BLUE BLUE BLUES

 

This time of year there are SO many reasons to get the sadness blues:

  • getting sick from all the viruses
  • so much less daylight
  • feeling disconnected from people and feeling nobody gets you
  • memories reviewing of lost loved ones and missed opportunities
  • stress from the holidays

What is one supposed to do???

“Winter is coming” formally so  it is best to put on your proverbial winter coat and wrap yourself in good scarf and gloves to stave off or manage the pain that that sadness brings

Here are 3 “A” steps you can use to shift the energy into healing, health, and wholeness.

  1. ASSESS: What you are really feeling?  Are you carrying emotional anchors such as sadness, loneliness, regret, shame, blame from the past that may or may not be serving you in the present?  Stop what you are doing and go through the “WHO< WHAT <WHY<HOW<WHEN” of the emotion. Who was with me? What was I doing that triggered my present feeling? Why am I feeling this way? When have I felt this way before?  Getting clarity is so helpful to put the emotion into perspective.
  2. ACKNOWLEDGE you are human and forgive yourself and others.  Let your adult mature self nurture and hold your inner child who might be suffering from a loss or past trauma.  You are human and deserve to feel deeply and experience pain as well as joy.  It is truly the human experience to do so.  Be kind to yourself and be your OWN best friend!
  3. ACTIVATE: Tell yourself “this is a moment in time” and this too shall pass and let it be OK!  You might be mourning your expectation of what you thought your life would have or could have been.  Just acknowledge this and then  send to the universe your vision of what you expect the future to be.
    1. Set intentions to bring yourself back to the connection with other people.  YOU NEED THIS.  We are social animals.  If you are alone find a place to volunteer, go to a church service, work in a soup kitchen, make some food and take it to an elderly who is isolated or in a Nursing Home.
    2. Just make a list.  Set a timer…sit in your blues wholeheartedly and acknowledge your beautiful capacity to feel deeply.
    3. Get a natural “mood light” and use this mid-day to bring some “sunshine” to your day.

The Holiday Winter Blues are a true subjective experience and I wish you love, self kindness, connection, and support.

Tip #15: Three Questions That Make a Big Difference

Each day we make choices that influence our pace and quality of life, and often we are completely unaware of the choices we are making and how they affect our life balance. So often we are operating from habit, instinct or need. While it’s a good thing that we don’t have to think about every little choice we make, when it comes to creating a balance between our work-related activities and the rest-of-our-life activities, it is critical to be conscious and deliberate about our decisions. Otherwise, we find ourselves feeling the negative effect of our unconscious choices by feeling overwhelmed, out of control, stressed, or even sick.

As you start your new year, become more aware of the many decisions you have to make in a day and ask yourself these three questions: 1. Is this moving me toward or away from a balanced life?, 2. Do I have a choice?, and 3. If I don’t have a choice, what can be a positive perspective around this decision? Approaching the new year by consciously asking yourself these three questions can make a big difference in your personal and professional fulfillment.

Tip #13: The Year to Reclaim More Time for Yourself

Life balance is something that we all aspire to. And every year we resolve that this is going to be the year where we gain control of our life instead of it having control of us. Imagine living a life in which your time is your own and where your opportunities for fun and enjoyment are equally balanced with opportunities for work.

Try making these simple changes to reclaim your time and achieve more balance:

  • Decide that when you do something with friends or family that you will be fully engaged in the process. Do not allow yourself to have a negative attitude or be distracted by other things. You will find yourself enjoying the time and activities much more.
  • Re-evaluate your traditions – If the old ones are causing you too much stress, too much money, and too much energy, choose some new ones.
  • Choose to be “out of pocket.” We need to choose to be out of pocket more often. No cell phones, no email, no texting, and no appointments.

How nice would it be to have more of your time be your own this year? Give these simple changes a try.

Tip #12: A Life Out of Balance Comes With a Price

Consistently living life out of balance – at a frantic pace — comes with a price. Not only for the people who are experiencing the imbalance, but also for the people they care about, and the organizations they serve.

Did you know that companies lose between $200 – $300 per person annually due to work place stress? Did you know that 80% of people feel stress on the job and that stress is the number 1 health problem? And global studies indicate that 70% of workers do not feel they have good work-life balance.

Frantic, chaotic, hectic lifestyles cost us not only the joy we find in life, but create a feeling of loss of control, while negatively impacting everyone and everything around us.

Choose to move toward balance, so instead of paying the ‘price’, you can reap the reward.

Tip # 10: Reclaiming More Time for Yourself

Life balance is something that we all aspire to. While it may seem like a goal you will never achieve, there are some simple steps you can take to gain control of your life instead of it having control of you. Imagine living a life in which your time is your own and where your opportunities for fun and enjoyment are equally balanced with opportunities for work.

Try making these simple changes to reclaim your time and achieve more balance:

  • Decide that when you do something with friends or family that you will be fully engaged in the process. Do not allow yourself to have a negative attitude or be distracted by other things. You will find yourself enjoying the time and activities much more.
  • Re-evaluate your traditions – If the old ones are causing you too much stress, too much money, and too much energy, choose some new ones.
  • Choose to be “out of pocket.” We need to choose to be out of pocket more often. No cell phones, no email, no texting, and no appointments.

How nice would it be to have more of your time be your own? Give these simple changes a try.

Tip # 9: Is it a Dream or is it Real?

Having a balanced life feels like an elusive dream for many of us and every year it is high on the list of things to change. There is no doubt that our lives are filled with demands pulling at us from many different directions, sometimes with no end in sight. But small choices can make a big difference in getting your life back into balance.

Here are some simple choices you can make in your day to achieve more balance and fulfillment:

    • Choose your leisure activities wisely. You only have a limited number of hours in the day for fun, so spend them on things you really enjoy.
    • When someone asks you to do something, don’t just say ‘yes’, only to regret it later. First consider how that thing will impact your work-life balance.
    • Plan at least one task every day that you know you will complete, and that you know you will feel good about. Then do it.
    • Identify the most stressful things in your life, and make simple changes so they feel less stressful.

You have the power to make these small, simple choices throughout the day for big impact. Set the intention this year and consciously move toward creating the ideal balanced life that you desire.

Tip # 8: Everyone Needs Some ‘Me Time’’

Self care is a critical part of living a well-balanced life. But it can be a real struggle when there are more things to do in a day than there is time to do them, and if you are used to putting everyone and everything before your own needs. But in order for you to deal best with life’s demands and be energetic and available to those you love, it is important that you make time for yourself.

Until you get into the habit of taking time for yourself, schedule time in your calendar to do things that you enjoy and make all necessary arrangements ahead of time. If you need to arrange for babysitters, budgeting, confirm with friends, or get help from your spouse, do not allow any obstacles to prevent you from taking time for yourself. Whether it is 15 minutes to take a warm bath, a walk around the block, or a night out with your friends, it is imperative to take care of you before stress and fatigue make you ill. Because the more refreshed and balanced you are, the more you will be able to care for the people and things that matter most in your life.

Taking ‘me time’ will make a huge difference in your satisfaction and fulfillment and life.

Tip #5: Work Life Balance in 4 Easy Steps

Can it be that easy? Can someone really achieve a balanced life in 4 simple steps? Life balance is all about choices – choices that move you toward what makes you feel content and fulfilled. But in order to make those choices you have to take these 4 steps.

The first step to achieving balance is ‘awareness’. This where you tune into where you are out of balance in your life, and notice where you can start making changes to get back into balance.

The second step is ‘desire’ – this is where you tune into what you want to do more of and less of – in other words, how you want your life to look.

The third step is identifying the ‘influences’ that lead you both towards and away from a balanced life. Identify the positive influences that can lead you to wards what you want. And identify the negative influences that impede your ability to create balance.

And the final step is ‘action’. This is where you take steps 1, 2 & 3, create a plan and put it into action.

Applying these 4 simple steps will help to move you in a direction that makes you feel happier, more in control, and more fulfilled in your life.